Teen Therapy Center Blog

"My kids are ungrateful. Is there anything I should be doing differently to get a little appreciation?"

Most parents have very specific rules when it comes to letting their children date. What are your rules? When do you think it's appropriate for your child or teen to start dating? This week's Tips On Teens question is short and sweet and gets right to the point! Here's the question:

"Hello. I am a mother of three kids ages 6, 9, and 13. One of the things that has been bothering me lately is that my kids, more so my 13 year old, are extremely ungrateful. They take everything I do for them for granted and don't thank me for anything. It was just Mother’s Day and they didn’t even wish me a Happy Mother’s Day. I’m OK with not receiving recognition for every little thing, but every now and then it would be nice to get some appreciation. I’m also worried it’s turning them into super entitled children. Is there anything I should be doing differently to get a little respect and appreciation?"

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"At what age should I let my teenager date?"

Most parents have very specific rules when it comes to letting their children date. What are your rules? When do you think it's appropriate for your child or teen to start dating? This week's Tips On Teens question is short and sweet and gets right to the point! Here's the question:

"At what age should I let my teenager date?"

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"My son did not get into his desired college choices. Is there anything I can to do help him consider other options?"

This week's Tips on Teens question is a tough one from a parent whose child has become completely against the idea of college after not getting accepted into one of the desired choices. Here's the question:

"My son just heard back from colleges and none of the schools he was hoping to go to accepted him. He’s now telling us that college is stupid and a waste of time and that he’s glad he didn’t get in. He used to be really excited about the idea of going to college, but now it’s the opposite. To be honest, we’re shocked he didn’t get accepted to some of his main choices. We forced him to apply to some backup colleges just in case and he did get into all of those. But he says that he’d rather die than go to any of those. I’m conflicted because I want to support and console him because it sucks, but I also want to encourage him to at least consider the other options before throwing out college entirely. Is there anything I can do to help him see things more clearly?"

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"Should I allow my 15 year old to go to Coachella next year?"

Coachella's second weekend has just finished and a lot of teens have been talking about their favorite bands and artists. At what age do you think it's appropriate to allow your child to go to Coachella? What do you think? We got an email from a parent wondering what to do about this. Here’s the question:

"My daughter’s friends have all been talking about how fun it was being at Coachella. I didn’t let my daughter go this year and she’s begging me telling me she absolutely has to go next year. Her favorite bands are all at Coachella and all her friends were allowed to go. I am completely torn. Part of me wants to let her go and have a good time, but the other part of me is really worried and scared for her if she were to go. It’s not the best environment for a 15 year old, in my opinion. As a parent, should I allow her to go?"

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Will Your Teen Celebrate 420?

Tips on Teens #029

April 20th is just around the corner! HURRAY!!! Are you ready to celebrate this very popular holiday? Is your house decorated? Do you have the appropriate holiday music playing?  

Popular holiday? Persian New Year has already passed and Easter falls on the 21st.  What’s on April 20th?

It’s a day celebrated by millions of people worldwide, especially among adolescents. This holiday often brings a sense of joy and the feeling of righteousness to its devotees.

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"We recently had a baby and our 9 year old is becoming increasingly distant. What do we do?"

Kent is back from his paternity leave to answer questions. As it happens, this question is about having a new baby! This question from a mother asks about what to do when other children react less-than-positively about the new baby in the family. Here’s the question:

"I saw your email about having a baby. Congratulations! My husband and I recently had a baby girl (4 month old). We have three kids now; the two older ones are 4 and 9. We’ve noticed since having the baby that our 9 year old has become increasingly distant. He is always calling the new baby “gross” and is mean to her. I’m really not sure… and too tired… to figure out how to handle this change. We’re trying to support all of them, but honestly the baby is taking up most of our time and energy that it’s hard to care for all of them equally. Have you experienced this as well? What do we do?"

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"My daughter thinks cheating is the only way to get into a good college. How do I help her stay motivated?"

We have a very interesting question for this week's Tips on Teens that deals with the recent scandals surrounding college admissions. How would you deal with a teen who essentially gives up because of the unfairness in admissions that has been exposed? Kent is here to share his professional opinion. Here’s the question:

"My daughter is starting to give up on school. She’s always been a good student, but she’s falling behind this semester. She says she’ll never get to a good college because the only way to get there is by cheating. She thinks that the recent college admissions scandal is how people get to good universities. I’m trying to convince her that with hard work she can get to the schools that she likes, but she can’t just give up. How do I help her stay motivated?"

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"How am I supposed to remain composed and supportive when my son keeps shutting me out?"

It can be hard to know what’s going on in your teenager’s head, especially when all you really want to do is help them and they keep giving you the cold shoulder! Being a parent of a teen is far from easy. This week’s Tips on Teens addresses a parenting question from a parent wondering how to handle being constantly shut down by her teen. Here’s the question:

"How am I supposed to remain composed and supportive when my son keeps shutting me out? I have a 13 year old son who has become so rigid lately. I feel like I can’t say anything right and he’ll just completely reject me or shut me out of almost anything. I really want to be there for him and support him but he really doesn’t give the chance. Honestly, it hurts and I feel like I’m being taken for granted. I’m really at a loss."

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"My teenager has ADHD can’t focus on her homework. How do we help her do well in school?"

School and homework are easily some of the more common causes of arguments with families we’ve seen. Now if you factor in ADHD and medication, things become more complicated. This week's Tips on Teens looks at a question from a parent wondering how to deal with a situation like that. Here's the question:

"My teenager can’t focus on her homework. She’s very smart and is capable of being an A student. There are always things to distract her. Sometimes she does the work, but won’t turn it in. This is causing big arguments between the two of us and arguments between me and my wife. She’s ADHD and takes medication but we don’t want to give her a booster after school because we want her to eat and the medication suppresses her appetite. How do we help her do well in school without the arguing?"

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"My 14 year old son thinks he is ugly. I think he looks fine. What should I do?"

It is fairly common for a teen to have an exaggerated view of his or her own self-image. But how can a parent help their child if this happens to be the case? Society and social media put a lot of pressure on teens to look a certain way, which can make it very difficult to foster a healthy self-image. This week's Tips on Teens answers a question from a mother concerned about how to help her son. Here's the question:

"My 14 year old son thinks he is ugly. He hates taking photos and selfies, so there are almost no photos of him now. He doesn't take care of himself, because he thinks that he is so ugly that nothing can help. I think he looks fine, but he always says I think so only because I am his mom. What should I do?"

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"What should I do to make sure my son doesn’t get into more fights?"

It’s hard to know what to do when your kid gets into a fight at school. This week’s Tips on Teens question comes from a parent concerned that his 6th grade son recently got into a fight. Kent is here to give his advice on this topic. Here’s the question:

"My son is in 6th grade and got into his first fight at school. Both boys got suspended. No one got seriously hurt. What should I do to make sure that he doesn’t get into more fights?"

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"Is what we are doing in regards to nudity inappropriate?"

When is nudity appropriate around the house with kids? At what age does this become a boundary issue? This week's Tips on Teens looks at a question from a father regarding nudity in the household. Here’s the question:

"I was hoping to get some reassurance on our views on nudity around the house. My wife and I thinks it’s totally fine for our kids and us to be naked around the house from time to time but some of our extended family has been giving us a hard time about it. They think it’s inappropriate. I honestly believe it’s important that we as parents don’t create shame around our bodies and nudity. We have two children, one age 8 and the other 11. Is what we are doing in regards to nudity inappropriate?"

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"How do I stop my 11 year old son from being so disrespectful to his sisters?"

It's often difficult for parents to know the difference between "sibling rivalry" and unacceptable behavior. This week’s Tips on Teens question comes from a concerned parent about his 11 year old son's behavior toward his sisters. Here's the question:

"How do I stop my 11 year old son from being so disrespectful to his sisters? I am constantly yelling at him to stop chasing and teasing them. They are older, so I don’t think he’ll hurt them, but I’m afraid that he will learn to be disrespectful and anti social to women in general as he gets older and hurt someone and get arrested."

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"What can I do to help my son lose weight?"

Overeating can be a serious mental health problem that is often overlooked until it gets out of hand. This week on Tips on Teens, Kent answers a question from a mother concerned about her son’s weight and eating habits. Here’s the question:

"I was hoping to get some advice on my 14 year old son. He’s extremely overweight and I’ve done all I can to try to help him lose weight. He’s over 300 pounds and is constantly eating unhealthy food, fast food, sweets, and so on. My husband and I try to limit how much he is allowed to eat, but we find that at nights he’ll sneak into the fridge and take food he’s not supposed to be eating. We confront him on this every time, but it never sticks. I’m so worried because I know this is taking years off his life. We’ve taken him to a nutritionist, therapist, doctor, and nothing is working. What do I do to help him lose weight?"

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"What can we do to help limit our son’s screen time peacefully?"

Many parents have to set rules with their kids in order to limit screen time, and we know that is not an easy task. This week on Tips on Teens, Kent answers a question from a mother who needs help enforcing these limitations in a peaceful manner. Here’s the question:

"Our 16 year old son is addicted to his computer and phone. Two weeks ago, my husband and I decided we needed to do something. We limited his computer and phone use to 2 hours per night on the weekdays (which we think is pretty generous…). Anyways, he’s been putting up a fight. We constantly find him on for longer than the allowed time and every single night has been a battle to get him off. I really don’t know how to get through this even though we know it’s best for him. What can we do to help limit his screen time peacefully?"

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